Whether it’s welcomed or unexpected, change isn’t always easy—but it’s always an opportunity for growth. Zeroing in on the present may help you avoid stress and keep you focused on the mission at hand, but that avoidance may become a normal practice on and off the job, especially when facing a major transition. Perhaps you’ll be leaving your current command for an upcoming PCS, IA deployment, or for other reasons; or you’re facing retirement or leaving the Navy. Even in unfamiliar situations, Controllability and Predictability can help you navigate new waters and thrive in your next phase of service or life.
One way to gain a sense of control and prepare for any transition is to start making connections and networking. If you’re going to PCS, think of someone that you can reach out to when things get stressful. Give him or her a heads up that you’ll be moving and ask if they will help you get connected within your new community. The Sponsor Program can also help you and your family get linked into your new unit and community, while your local Relocation Assistance Program can help simplify your move.
Sailors who aren’t in transition can help those who are by checking on that person regularly to see how things are going. They’ll appreciate a trusted friend having their back, and your perspective might help them get a better grasp on what lies ahead. Leaders can help as well. Send personal introductory letters or emails to a new check-in’s family and ask about their specific needs or questions. Building that relationship early on will help families feel comfortable speaking up if they have concerns about their Sailor that leadership may not otherwise detect. A supportive and welcoming command environment can help ease the transition process.
Proactive preparation can also help reinforce a sense of control and predictability. Whether you’re a first timer or a pro at deployments, planning is crucial to help you and your family manage logistics and shape expectations in advance. The excitement of coming home can be stressful as well, especially with the change in pace when reintegrating back into family life. Check out this Real Warriors feature for tips to consider when reconnecting with family and friends.
Perhaps the most anxiety-producing transition is preparing for life after the Navy. Navy’s Transition GPS can help with pre-separation questions. You can also take proactive measures, like learning how to “de-militarize your resume,” in order to take some of the stress out of the next phase in life. Speaking with friends who have already retired or separated and are thriving in their new careers can also ease anxiety—and help get you connected.
With any change, the Relationships you build will help carry you through life’s challenges. Having the support of others, controlling what you can and preparing for the predictable can help take the stress out of the next chapter. Remember, “It is not the strongest of the species that survives, nor the most intelligent. It is the one that is most adaptable to change.” —Charles Darwin